Saturday, May 3, 2008

Phony Bologna

Do you ever go somewhere and see someone who you know is upset at you and they give you that..."Hi, how are you" smile and hug? But deep down, you know they really do not care and are acting all "Hump...I had to see you huh?". I can't stand people like that. I faced ALOT of that today. There are a few things that have been bothering me sooooo bad lately.

1. Phony Bologna's!!!! I can't stand anyone who is not themselves. Why do we pretend to be happy when we may be upset or hurt or even angry. Holding it in is not the best solution!!! When asked the question "How are you today" even if it is a bad day, why do we answer " Good"??? To avoid that person caring????

2. Perfect housewives! Oh boy...this one gets to me all the time. All they are doing is making other wives feel like we are not good enough. When you have children, you WILL have crumbs on the floor. (unless you are constantly running the vacuum or sweeping in 10 minute intervals)!!!

3. Liars. Do not lie to me. I can handle the truth. If I have upset you, let me know. If not, how can I know I upset you!!!

So many people in my life do not think I can perform as well as them or even someone who is as educated as me. See, I am good at what I do. Do I have a clean house that the bathrooms are crystal clean? NO! But, they do not need to be. I will not sacrifice my time with my husband, kids or my alone time with God (which I need to have more often or maybe I would not be feeling this way????) to clean the house because someone MIGHT stop by!

As I look around my house right at this moment I see....

1. Dishes from lunch in the sink
2. Crumbs on the living room floor
3. Toys...all over.....
4. Things on the counters
5. Dirty clothes on my bedroom floor
6. A bathtub that need a cleaning
7. Mirrors that need to be washed
8. Closets that are full of stuff that might or might not be garbage (hehe)
9. Shoes all over
10. Kids rooms are a mess

There is more.....

My point is that if you do not like it, don't stop by! LOL

I remember my mom telling me something that her grandmother told her....." If your kitchen and bathroom is clean, then no one can complain if they come over". I see that statement as false. Here is my statement " If you stop by and do not like the way you see my house, the broom and mop is in the laundry room, the cleaning solutions are above the stove, and the vacuum is in my yourself or do not complain!!!"
(Am I mean??? LOL)

I am tired of holding all this in. We do not have to be perfect.
I remember reading a friends blog a while back and it asked "Why is your family unique".
We are ourselves. That makes us unique. If I was to be like the other families I know, then I would be like them and not like us. Kevin and I discipline our kids differently than other families, we eat dinner differently, we spend our money differently, we live differently. We are us. That make us different. I like being different and for years now I have been living in this "Christian shell" that I must live like other Christian families so that the example of a christian family is given correctly. But all I have been doing is giving a false view on who I am. In a way I am scared to be "myself", thinking that my friends will not like me anymore. But shoot...I have given up so many things that I love not for God, but for the church and for people.
One thing that I loved to do is wear trendy clothes! Halter tops was one of the clothing items that I loved to wear. But I felt like it was not right to wear...I just bought a few of them. Will I wear them to church? Yes I will. Because they do not make me look bad, they accent me.
Another thing that I have LOVED SO MUCH! Oldies and country music. It is this misconception that a christian must listen to christian music or they are damned to hell. I love the 70's music generation. Those songs have more soul, more love than any music today. Oh, and I just love hearing about how someone lost his wife, dog left him and his house burnt down all in one day (country music).

Hope I am coming across okay. :)